The DV Weekend Pickup #13

This weekend let's lighten the mood with a little humor...

Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari

What I like best: It's funny! I'm always concerned when I buy a book in this genre - comedy, dating, etc - it's going to be just someone's long winded and repetitive rant. Aziz does just the opposite because he actually teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg to develop a year long research project to give the book a backbone. As well as consulting with many of the worlds top social scientists. The project spanned from America (urban, rural, and suburban) to Tokyo to Buenos Aires - all with VERY unique dating cultures as you'll find out. He contends, "the world is available to us, that may just be our problem" and "there's no dating service on the planet that can do what the human brain can do in terms of finding the right person." Asking us silly questions like:

“Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?” “Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who’s Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?” 

Personally I really enjoyed when he gets into the differences between our generation and prior generations when it comes to dating or marriage. Suggesting at one point it was basically like, "if the guy had a decent job and a good mustache, lock it down girl." SO funny. If you want a light read that tackles the modern dating scene - texting (yes, sexting as well), dating sites, relationships, marriage, social media, etc. - then definitely pick this book up. I'm sure you'll enjoy it.

Best Quote: "We have two selves: a real-world self and a phone self, and the non sense our phone selves do can make our real-world selves look like idiots. Our real-world selves and our phone selves go hand-in-hand. Act like a dummy with your phone self and send some thoughtless message full of spelling errors, and the real-world self will pay the price. The person on the other end sees no difference between your two selves. They never think, oh, I'm sure he's much more intelligent and thoughtful in person. This is just his "lazy phone persona.""