The DV Weekend Pickup #40

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

What I like best:  Chapman has devised a systematic approach to improving romantic relationships, that actually works, and has been proven.  "I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday," says Chapman.  Now before you go judging a book by it's cover understand or at least appreciate that Chapman has used theses techniques and strategies for years improving relationships one by one as well in seminars globally.  Additionally this book has spent close to 8 years (since 2009) as #1 New York Times Bestseller.  

Chapman contends that all people have a dominant love language of either...

  1. Receiving gifts 
  2. Quality time
  3. Words of affirmation
  4. Physical touch
  5. Acts of service

As I mentioned prior, before you jump to conclusions and makes assumptions on the love languages, what they mean, etc - I will challenge you to read the book!!!  Each love language takes on a slightly different meaning than meets the eye.

The ultimate goal is to recognize your partner's love language then be able to communicate in their language to them so they feel loved.

You can go take the online assessment at 5 Love Languages Quiz to find out what your love language.  I will warn you though, I did that and after I read the book I realized my truly dominant love language was completely different.  I found that I gamed the quiz to what I "thought" made me feel loved but after analysis of key questions in the book, I realized what honestly and innately made me feel loved - I had to own up to it!

Best Quote:  "What we will do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage."

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